Then there's Superman. Sure, his parents relinquished him, but that was to save him from an exploding planet. AND they provided a handy-dandy video with information about his roots that he could access when he was of age by going to his fortress of solitude, so that's probably the most like a real adoption / reunion story (okay, except maybe for the part about flying and seeing through things and wearing a cape... actually, i do wear a cape on occassion), except that those of us in closed-adoption system never got that much information! Sure, you can get all the information about your original family if you're from outer-space, but if you're in the U.S., forget about it.
Hey, there's even Biological Attraction thing with his sister (oh, yeah, another spoiler).
Why I think Star Wars and Superman (and maybe Spiderman) are the perfect adoption stories:
- No one was trying to pretend the child was their own by birth or hiding the fact they were adopted
- They accept that there is grief and loss for the child
- The adopted parents all accepted that their children were different from themselves and tried to raise them to their best ability by acknowledging the differences
- The adoptive parents tried to help them to adapt to the family and world they were being raised in, again acknowledging that it was not their native habitat but a different world entirely
- Eventually, (well, at the threshold of adulthood - during the "coming of age") the adoptee had to go off on his own to explore his origins to gain acceptance of the whole of who he is. (okay, maybe not so much with Spidey. He may have learned that with great power comes great responsibility, but he's still not really willing to look into his dark past. We get it. You're not there yet. Though, I don't know who Venom is - maybe he has something to do with a dark past).
- People don't think that the child is ungrateful or loves his adoptive parents any less just because he searches out his origins.
- The adoptive parents' love is more apparent in their acceptance of the search.